 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I took sort of a break from my father after my mom died because of the way he treated me during her hospice. I live close to them and was glad to help out, since my father could do nothing for my mom, saying he didn't have it in him. It was mainly on me, sometimes my aunt and the hospice nurses. I asked my brother to visit and help out, and he and his girlfriend came and treated it like a vacation. They never stayed with my mom for more than a few minutes. When I'd asked him to do anything to help, like wash his own sheets, even he would ignore me and my dad would say it was his vacation and couldn't I just do it. My dad never thought about me, working full time, and spending every night at their house. My aunt was my only relief in those days. I hadn't seen him much the year after that because of the pandemic. We finally met at my aunt's house. I tried talking to him about how he treated me and at first he denied it, but when my aunt backed me up, he said he was grieving and had a good reason for doing that "if he really did." He made me the bad guy for even bringing it up. I was crushed and haven't spoken to him much since then. Is there any reason not to cut my toxic father out of my life entirely? — Crushed | 
