Carolyn Hax: How to stop holding a grudge against people promoted over you
| She feels guilty about how bitter she is toward people who were promoted over her, but who aren't doing a good job. |
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| | | |  |  | | Advice to help you tackle life's problems. | | | | | |  (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: Several times in the past few years, leadership roles and spots in selective groups that I really wanted have gone to other people. For the most part, I am at peace with this; I had my grieving period, and I try my hardest not to let it affect my day-to-day life. However, it is very difficult to watch the people who were chosen for these positions not doing a better job than I know I could do, and not appreciating what they have been given as much as I would, when I know I was just as qualified, if not more; worked just as hard, if not more; and wanted the positions just as much, if not more. I feel guilty that I am having these snide thoughts — these people are perfectly nice and have done nothing wrong to me personally. I don't want to be the kind of person who harbors grudges and stays bitter over these things. How do I move on, so I can stop feeling so miserable? — Feeling Overlooked | | | Never miss another chatWe're making it easier for you never to miss one of the Friday chats. Sign up here to receive an email right as the chat is about to start. | | | Want more?Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. | | | Ask for adviceCarolyn chats with readers every Friday afternoon. | | | | | | | | | |
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