 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Hello, Carolyn! Our adult daughter, 28, doesn't call us often, but often when she does, she is in a blue funk and sees every aspect of her life as a negative. She got an interview with a firm she has really wanted to work for, but in her call she had so many negative things to say about the firm, the hours required, etc. I don't know what to say to her in these calls because no matter what I say, she says something negative. She has dealt with depression and has always had trouble with change, so this might be part of that, but these calls are super-hard on me. The pandemic has driven her crazy, and she talks about how she has been hurt with it. She doesn't understand that we feel the same way, and so does everyone else in the universe. I had to walk away from the phone last night because she was causing me so much anxiety. I want to be empathetic and a good listener, but I don't know how to do it when she is in one of these negative phases. — In a Funk |
