Carolyn Hax: Managing the ‘constant fear that my friends are hanging out without me’
| After living with a roommate for years, a move to live solo comes with "constant fear" of being excluded when everyone else is hanging out. |
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| | | |  |  | | Advice to help you tackle life's problems. | | | | | |  (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Hi, Carolyn: I recently moved into my own apartment. I'd previously lived with the same roommate for eight years, and we wanted to spread our wings and live separately. Well, now I'm in my new place, and I just live in constant fear that my friends are hanging out without me. It goes away while I'm working, and emerges at night and on the weekends as a constant anxiety. The group typically makes a weekend plan together, but weekday nights seem to be a free for all with people hanging out. My therapist just keeps asking me what I can do to help myself feel better. And short of trying to force my friends to always invite me places, I'm not sure what I can do. I also have a fear of coming up with a plan myself, and no one saying yes. Any advice? — FOMO | | | Read your responses to this week's reader questionWe asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. | | | Want more?Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. | | | | | | | | | |
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