Carolyn Hax: How to tell others to back off when they ask why you’re not drinking
| When drinking less attracts friends' attention and disapproval, it can feel defensive to tell them to mind their own business. |
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| | | |  |  | | Advice to help you tackle life's problems. | | | | | |  (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: During 2020 my wine intake increased … substantially. It had been creeping up for years, and when covid hit, it went full throttle. There was no drama or big episode, but eventually I realized I had to turn it around. I joined a Facebook group that focuses on moderation, and they pointed me to literature that helped me change my habits. I feel great. The issue is others, who seem uncomfortable when I order something nonalcoholic. One in particular voices her disapproval. I realize this is more of a reflection on her than me, but I'm uncomfortable with the light it shines on my drinking, or actually not drinking. My decision was extremely personal, and I'm not looking to share this very personal information with anyone other than very close family. How do I tell people to mind their own business without looking defensive? — Managing in Moderation | | | How has Carolyn Hax's advice affected you?For the upcoming 25th anniversary of Carolyn Hax's advice column, we're putting together a piece about how her work has impacted readers. | Perspective ● By Christine Loman and Carolyn Hax ● Read more » | | | | | | Want more?Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. | | | | | | | | | |
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