 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My former best friend, "Annie," was my maid of honor when I got married about 20 years ago and did a lot to make that wedding a success. When Annie got married 12 years later, I had two young children and couldn't be as involved as she had been for my wedding. Since her wedding was child-free — no children younger than 12 — and babysitters were scarce, in the end we couldn't even be there. I had asked Annie to consider a more child-friendly wedding, but she took offense and pointed out that my own wedding had been child-free. I tried to explain the difference — most of her friends now had children younger than 10. But she couldn't see reason and froze out three of us, all with children, who missed her wedding after she'd done so much for us. And I admit she did a lot: threw showers, ran errands, made centerpieces, decorated receptions, the works. Our friendship didn't really survive her hurt feelings, and other than social media, we don't interact these days. I miss her and would like to renew the friendship. Where do we even start? Can I just say I miss her and go from there, without rehashing the past? — Missing My Friend |
