Carolyn Hax: Surprise! Pregnancy delights her, but rattles her husband and son
| She struggled with secondary infertility but finally got pregnant after 11 years. She's overjoyed by it all except her husband's and son's reactions. |
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| | | |  |  | | Advice to help you tackle life's problems. | | | | | |  (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I'm overjoyed to find myself pregnant at age 42, having suffered from secondary infertility since my son was born 11 years ago. What a wonderful thing to happen at this dark and dreary time, right? Except my husband is glum and my son is pouty and "embarrassed" — by what you ask? I'm not sure. My husband keeps grimly telling me how old we'll be when this child is through college and how much it will probably cost. My son is declaring he won't share his room — it was never a consideration — or change any diapers. We've finally started telling people and I don't know what to say when they assume my husband is ecstatic and my son excited. Why is my family acting this way? My husband keeps saying he needs time to adjust but it's been almost two months and this is a child we can very well afford and have always wanted — what is there to adjust to? I don't think I'll ever get over his initial reaction. What words of wisdom do you have for me? — Expecting | | | Want more?Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. | | | | | | | | | |
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