 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: My parents had an ugly divorce. My mom made up some lies, including lying to the judge. She "took" my sister and me for 18 days. She fought their pre-nup agreement (and lost). She even tried to have my dad thrown in jail based on more lies. In the end, after a lot of money to lawyers, it was pretty much a 50/50 split. These things aren't really a secret, but I know many details because my uncle/godfather told me, with court documents in hand so there could be no doubt. I will graduate from high school this spring. With extended family on my dad's side, events like graduations and weddings tend to act as a family reunion as well. The problem is my uncle/godfather refuses to be in the presence of my mom, since she's the woman who lied to try to get his little brother thrown in jail and made him spend our college tuition on lawyers (his words). It is a line he won't cross since she tried to take away my dad's freedom. Recently I said I hoped he, my aunt and cousins would come to my high school graduation. My uncle offered to pay for a second party on a different night so they wouldn't have to be around my mom. I think it is a little weird but not a horrible solution. I would get to set the schedule. I imagine there would be many folks who would attend both parties, too. Is there anything weird or wrong about having two parties? My godfather is stubborn. He is the oldest of his generation and feels he is a bit of a protector of his family. He does help his extended family a lot. He arranges and finances joint vacations, co-signs loans, etc. My parents mostly get along and are civil now, though my mom's relatives are all still embarrassed about the things she did during the divorce. — Is Two Better Than One? | 
