 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Carolyn Hax is away. The following first appeared Aug. 5, 2007. Dear Carolyn: I feel like I'm in a Catch-22, and I hope you can help. I've been dating my boyfriend for three years (we're both in our late 20s), and we've had a great relationship. I want us to get married, and I've known and been comfortable with this for a while. Even though I've never said so directly, my boyfriend knows how I feel. He is definitely committed to me, and we have a great relationship. But we're still not engaged, and I can feel myself starting to get resentful of waiting. I have thought about popping the question myself, but (a) he's a bit of a traditionalist and I don't think it would be well-received, and (b) it feels like an ultimatum, and I'm afraid it would force a decision he has a valid reason for postponing. Plus, in all honesty, I really want him to ask me. (However, I couldn't care less about rings and all that other stuff, and I think he knows this, too.) So how do I find out why I'm still waiting, without pressuring him? Or, alternatively, how do I stop feeling resentful for it? — Waiting |
