 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My mother-in-law is an incredibly generous person and I love her, but she has been overwhelming as of late. She lives within walking distance of us, and until the pandemic, this was never a problem, because she has so much family and many friends. Now, because of the pandemic, she has to be careful and her world has shrunk. While we're working, she shows up and insists on cleaning our house, which probably sounds wonderful but is incredibly uncomfortable for me. Especially when she makes our bed or does things like scold my husband for leaving a mess in the bathroom. On my birthday, she showed up with an already prepared three-course meal for the three of us. It was delicious but not what we had planned. She came over shortly after we found out I'm expecting, and she practically knocked my husband out of the way to get to me and hug and kiss me and tell me that she'll do everything for me now. My husband doesn't see the problem here, so is it me? Am I making a problem out of having a wonderful mother-in-law because my own mother is kind of distant? — Is It Me? | 
