 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: I have a friend who frequently tells me stories of how people have offended her, and almost never do I think the people did anything wrong or intentional. I try to just listen sympathetically, as she's hurt by these interactions. Telling her I don't think she has a reason to feel hurt doesn't seem like being a good friend. However, I'm starting to get concerned because she's not on good terms with several members of her family, as well as several people at her work, and I also just care about her and want her to be happy. Is there a way for me to broach this? Am I gaslighting her if I do this by telling her that her reality isn't real? Do I even know what gaslighting means?? (Probably not.) She's a longtime, very good friend, and I don't want to risk our friendship by mismanaging this. — When a Slight Isn't a Slight | 
